jrite69 (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

The love of my life and I love our relationship and we met as single swingers. I've been engaged before and she was married before, so this isn't our first trip around the block. Swinging has introduced us to so many pleasures it is crazy. And together after a night out is simply the best.Don't be jealous. Allow yourself to be loved, love another, and realize that sex does not equate love and neither does love equate sex. Live life, be happy, and expand your existence.

SpaceSolar (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

I realise that this other side of talking can't be a topic in every video, but perhaps it would be worth devoting one to specifically exploring the issue of "talking to death" vs. open and sensible communication. It's a line that is easily crossed.

SpaceSolar (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

I'm slightly concerned about the "talk, talk, talk" thing. It is a deficiency in many (most?) relationships, true, but maybe it should also be said that sometimes, talking ISN'T the right answer.There is a danger that a relationship loses its sincerity, for lack of a better term - is "talked to death", if you will, which one should be aware of. Sometimes, also, bitching about every little thing is mixed up with being open to talk.

firegirlemtcop (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

But, if she runs into a friend who brings to her attention that her ass looks bad in those pants, then she'll probably be upset with you for not saying something. There's always a nice way to say it...

ethica151 (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

Dont mind him - he's just trolling.

gossamerwindweb (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

Well, I've been with my husband for 13 1/2 years and our relationship is better and better... We are in a better place and MORE in love now than we were back in the beginning. We don't have any boat rocking. Any argument is fixed very quickly with some honest, loving discussion. Life is.... wonderful.Maybe you weren't with the right woman? Maybe you communicate in a dysfunctional manner? I have no idea why it didn't work for you. All I know is that honesty is what keeps us going. :)

gumpydoood (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

Oh, you sound so RATIONAL. he hehehe. I know better: believe me, I know better! You're a woman. There are times that you must be lied to. That's my point. You can call me all the ugly names you wish, but I have been there baby.When I can get through two straight fucking months of peace with no goddamned boat rocking, then I will BEGIN to believe women are capable of being rational. At 55 and two marraiges, I can assure you that is NOT the case.

gossamerwindweb (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

that was supposed to go down there. Sorry for double posting ;)

gossamerwindweb (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

Here's the deal.... I DO desire honesty from my husband in everything. I guess I must be an odd woman, but if he tells me that I am wearing something that doesn't flatter me, I appreciate that!Yes, honesty is key to me. Lying is a problem. I could forgive my husband almost anything (obviously there are way out there horrible things I couldn't forgive) as long as he was HONEST with me about what he did. Lying to me is THE deal breaker.

gossamerwindweb (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

Here's the deal.... I DO desire honesty from my husband in everything. I guess I must be an odd woman, but if he tells me that I am wearing something that doesn't flatter me, I appreciate that!Yes, honesty is key to me. Lying is a problem. I could forgive my husband almost anything (obviously there are way out there horrible things I couldn't forgive) as long as he was HONEST with me about what he did. Lying to me is THE deal breaker.